The Gabe Log

My best friend and I became inseparable from the moment we met on that cold winter's night back in 1992. We "clicked" right away and decided that we were going to trust each other from that point on. She was having some issues at home, so she came to stay with my mom and I, temporarily, which turned into an off-an-on living situation that spanned over the next several years. We were very close and shared everything. Once we were out of high school, we moved in to an apartment together. We were best friends through so many bad relationships, hard times and traumas. Things were definitely rocky between us at times, but by this point we had become more like sisters than best friends.

Circumstances took us each to different parts of the country, but we always kept in touch and tried to see each other when we could. She started a family and had 2 lovely daughters, while I traveled and continued to search for whatever it is I was (and still am) looking for. Social networking sites were a fabulous and convenient way for us to chat and keep up with what the other was doing on a day-to-day basis.

My best friend and I have always had our own opinions about everything and, up until recently, we were always respectful to each other about them. That is, until 3 days ago, when she posted this shocking status update on one of the social networking sites...

"I've always been a firm believer in "to each his own". However, lately I don't agree. Not only does this go against the bible-not so concerned with- but scientifically it's not "normal". If it were normal to be gay, babies would arise out of buttsex and bumpim vag's. that shit doesn't happen. So to all my fags out there. Get straight, you're not the "special one"."

I was horrified. Who was this person? Where did this hatred come from? I was confused and angry, so I called her on it. I told her that what she had posted was complete bullshit and that she had no idea what she was talking about. I knew that this would NOT provoke a good reaction from her, but I didn't care. I was furious at this point and decided to take the next big step and UN-FRIEND her (real mature, I know). Perhaps I was overreacting a little, but as far as I was concerned, I didn't need to see any further "status updates" coming from a person who said what she had said.

A few brief Emails were exchanged in which she pointed the finger back at me, saying I was not perfect and I was not the only one allowed to be controversial. I felt like telling her that there was a big difference between being controversial and being just plain stupid and hateful. But what I really told her was that she was behaving like a bigot and I didn't need to witness any more behavior of that sort. She wound up confessing that she felt we had been growing apart for quite some time and that she was "sorry" for offending me, then she subsequently BLOCKED me so that I could not respond. On top of all this, she deleted my mother from her friends list as well. Odd, considering my mom hadn't been involved or said anything about this matter.

So, that's how it is. Twenty years of friendship down the toilet because of one (incredibly) stupid comment. She and I have both said lots of stupid stuff over the years, but nothing this outrageously offensive. I feel like I don't know who my best friend has become. I don't know if I want to keep someone in my life who believes such terrible lies. And, as it turns out, I don't think I have to make that decision, because she's made it for us.

Thanks for listening and have a great day! xo